Know what makes me really mad? I mean, really mad? When us women allow ourselves to be portrayed as sex objects. Like the only thing we're good for is looking pretty and giving pleasure.
Isn't that what we're taught from the time we first notice the girl on the magazine cover in the grocery store? What are the captions that go along with those pictures? "How to have great sex"? Wow. Like the only woman who can give great sex is a woman with a barbie stomach and breasts that can barely fit into a bikini top. And like sex is the most important thing on earth. Like that's all we're here for. We see this girl in her flowing hair, big, made-up eyes, full lips, striking her pose and automatically go, "hey, if I had that, maybe all the guys would flock to me!"
First off, we're right. Guys tend to flock to the hottest, most out-there girl, but only for a time. Those girls are eye-candy, great for a moment, but lose their flavor all too quickly. There will always be a sexier woman out there. Secondly, shame on those women for continuing the stereotype that terrific bodies and sex is all women are good for.
And yet, don't we do it all the time? Don't even we Christian women continue the stereotype by trying to slim down to nothing, hitting the beach in bikinis, or wearing shirts that come down to the point of near immodesty? Don't we spend hours on our hair, or pile on eyeliner and mascara to bring out our already beautiful eyes? Don't we wear shorts that might just be a little tiny bit too short, and think nothing of it?
I'm not saying we need to stop wanting to be beautiful. I think it's something that God put in us to want to be pretty and attractive to the men in our lives. After all, don't we want our husbands to be attracted to us? But what kind of attraction is going to be in place if it's only for how willing to reveal ourselves we are? We can be pretty without revealing anything.
One of the best things anyone has ever said to me was said by one of my good friends that I met at Daytona State. After a couple weeks of getting to know each other, he said, "y'know, the first time you walked into my class, I knew you were a Christian. You're modest in your dress, and you look like you have something more". And this is the same person who says things like, "you have beautiful hair", "as pretty as you are" and "you're way too hard on yourself".
Only women can stop this stereotype. As long as we're flaunting it, boys are gonna be gaping, and little girls are going to want to be like that.
So what's more lovely? A woman with a great body, or a woman with a beautiful heart?
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